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Holy shit!

Remember the days when 'social networking' websites were used TO meet people, not just keep track of everyone you have already met like they were trading cards? I miss that.
I can easily say that a good 90% (or so) of my current IRL forever friends were people whom I met online first (LJ, SG, MySpace, etc, etc), what happened to that sense of social adventure?

The internet is SO SAFE now, and now were all too scared (for some reason, because obviously we know at this point how to navigate the seas of random creeps online) to meet anyone off of it anymore. 

Why is that? 

I want a new site to hang out on, one where discovering, chatting with and maybe even meeting new people isn't a crime against humanity/internettiquette that ISN'T a dating site of some kind.

That being said, of course Facebook is there worst offender because when you send somebody an FR or if they send you one, and you don't immediately recognize them, our reactions are always, "WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU DO I KNOW YOU WHY ARE YOU FRIENDING ME".
Such hostility.

On that note, I've been doing some house-cleaning over there and I will definitely be scaling back my use of it. I'm hoping to just ween myself off of it completely at some point. It's turned into nothing but politics, pop culture and parents at this point. 


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Jul. 4th, 2012 02:08 am (UTC)
OK Cupid is the only place I know of where you go to meet new people. And that is a dating site. You could set your profile to say you are only looking for platonic friends/are attached. Don't make a bitchy profile (like "do NOT contact me asking for a date", because that just brings out the trolls) and you might meet someone.

And I don't friend people I don't know on FB because I don't believe in online friendships. I mean, everyone I talk to online I have to have met or expect to meet sometime in the foreseeable future. And, generally, if someone friends me who I haven't met, then my daily travels will probably not bring me into their path anytime soon. I also don't friend people (or unfriend people) I haven't talked to in years and don't expect to see again. There is just something about meeting friends online that is weird for me. Real life friends are much more fun and rewarding. Good luck though.
Jul. 4th, 2012 05:41 pm (UTC)
Hate and fear, yo.
So many of my best IRL friends I met online and by golly, I'm still alive! IMPOSSIBRU!!!!

You never know, could be fun.

Jul. 4th, 2012 06:04 pm (UTC)
It's not that I am afraid, I just don't value friendships where I don't ever physically spend time with a person. I'm old fashioned that way, I know.
Jul. 4th, 2012 06:09 pm (UTC)
I meant it more like, stumble upon them online, chat, if you get along, meet up, and hell...maybe become actual IRL friends as opposed to just 'internet friends'. Like, use the internet to make 'real life' friends.
Jul. 4th, 2012 07:52 pm (UTC)
Yeah, no. You get to know people much better offline. They have less of a chance to edit. And why would I want to put effort into meeting someone online who might be completely different when I meet them in person? And I have enough people around me on a daily basis to provide for social needs for life. Just have to take the opportunity.
Jul. 4th, 2012 08:20 pm (UTC)
Different strokes, I suppose.
Jul. 4th, 2012 05:36 am (UTC)
I fucking miss the old sgaz dayz....I swear those were some of the most hilarious times of my life. I'm still good friends with people I met then. Oh yeah and my babydaddy and partner of almost 10 years was met through sg as well. I wonder if people are even doing shit like that at all these days? I do miss the old internet before erryone got skerrd.
Jul. 4th, 2012 05:34 pm (UTC)
I know. I just can't imagine how people get together these days (I know that sounds weird) but it's just like "What website are they using?!" and the thing is, I don't think they are.
Jul. 5th, 2012 12:03 am (UTC)
I'm not super great in social/party situations because I never seem to relate to most people I encounter...the thing I liked about the sg crowd was that they were mostly like minded people and I knew that going into an IRL situation with them because of having already encountered them in an online situation. Although, I have to say I feel like that was kind of an SGAZ specific thing bc when we first moved to PDX we hung out with SG peeps here and they were massive elitist douchebags. I liked the fact that the "scene" in AZ back then was more like "hey, we are all kind of wierd and looking for other people like us, so the more the merrier." It wasn't "too cool for school, gtfo." I think some people (maybe most?) might present an over inflated version of themselves online and when you meet they are just normal assholes, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing...i'd rather hang out with an asshole than The Coolest Person on Planet Earth. I kind of like discovering that people are just regular people...you know, we all shit in the woods with one pant leg at a time of whatever the saying is. Anyway, I have a hard time making friends so it was always easier to seek like minded people out online and then make friend with them IRL. Now I'm just a crotchety old hermit. #longestcommentever
Jul. 4th, 2012 09:42 am (UTC)
Word. I tried switching to Google+, but no one really posts there (other than Fabian).
I met so many cool people via LJ and other sites, it's sad that now it's either EVERYTHING I'VE EVER DONE BTW HERE'S MY BABIES or people being super anonymous. I'd like to think tumblr might start filling that niche, but I don't know. Bah
Jul. 4th, 2012 05:39 pm (UTC)
Yeah, there doesn't seem to a happy medium between "here is every detail of every minute of my day" and "I DON'T EXIST, but I do have this profile for some reason". But I can sort of get it, Facebook is so predatory about what it harvests from you, that even I try not to fill out all the fields there anymore and I keep my shit private. I WANT for it to be public, but what with the fact that employers can use what you post there against you now...back in the day it was all goofy 'screen names' so locating you personally unless there was a common connection (i.e.: mutual friends) was almost impossible.
Also, there were no relatives on those old websites, at least not at the time. Now everybody is "friends" with their great-step-second cousin-in-law's grandmother once removed so it's impossible to be free and goofy and debaucherous in an open way.
Jul. 5th, 2012 12:11 pm (UTC)
very good point
Aug. 23rd, 2012 07:46 pm (UTC)
hey there, I just friended you and figured I'd leave a comment so to as not appear creepy. :) I read a post of yours over in poor_skills and looked at your profile out of curiosity; turns out we have a bunch of things in common and you sound interesting so I added you to my flist. Feel free to add me back if you'd like. :)

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